Loser, Winner Or Champion… Which One Are You?
There are 3 basic types of people.
Just 3.
The Loser.
The Winner.
The Champion.
The loser is really easy to spot.
They talk too much, spend too much time thinking about things rather than doing them, they spend tons of time in the past reflecting on things that didn’t work out for them and that they can’t change, when they do go into the future they do so with assumption and limitation at the forefront of their mind, they start little and finish less, they don’t have a plan for getting where they want to go but spend all of their time telling others why their plans couldn’t possibly work.
These people make up the bulk of society.
They’re the people leading the ‘average’ life. The one that most people refer to as ‘normal’.
They see practically everything from the perspective of risk, and every risk as something that is more likely to fail than succeed.
Because of this they tend to be distracted easily and find that the grass is always greener than their own and that they need another and another and another ebook, program or something else, even though they haven’t even applied everything from the one they’re currently using.
They are characterised by almost permanent doubt, fear, anxiety and procrastination that either has them paralysed into no action or always doubting that the action they’ve taken is the right one, meaning that they never really commit in the first place.
These people are losers, not because of any name-calling or judgement on the part of those people who observe them and their results but rather, because they play a game that they can never win and so, by default, are always set up to lose.
The winner is different.
They’re a far rarer creature and one that always stands out, especially in a crowd of losers.
The winner has clear goals and targets, has a clear plan for achieving them and a commitment and discipline to help them to get there.
The winner is positive, optimistic and exerts a can-do attitude even when obstacles pop up in their path.
The winner is distinctive by the sheer amount of action they take in their lives and the passion that they always exert in relation to that action.
Even when the winner experiences what the loser might call ‘failure’, the winner observes, analyses and makes corrections to their strategy before getting up and getting on with achieving the goal.
If the winner stands out in a crowd then the champion is standing on an elevated platform, festooned with lights with a sound-system cranked up to the max playing ‘We Will, We Will Rock You!” whilst urging the crowd into synchronised hand-clapping.
They stand out, they get attention… because they are different!
The champions, like the winners, are in perpetual motion but their motion is different. Rather than focusing solely on the future and on the activities required to make that future a reality (like winners tend to) champions have the great knack of focusing on the now and on removing all the unnecessary ‘stuff’ that is taking away from the enjoyment of the now.
Sure, they have future goals and have a crystal clear picture of what their future will look like but they don’t live there. They don’t spend all of their time thinking and talking about what’s not here yet.
They think, talk and act on the only thing that they have control over. Where they are right now.
And not just from the perspective of what they need to do now to achieve some future goal, but rather, what they have to do right now to remove the obstacles to their happiness and fulfilment.
What makes champions stand out from others, even the winners, is that they are simply happy more often and for longer periods of time than even the winners, who can often be found feeling unhappy about a lack of progress in some area of their life.
Champions, you could say, have their priorities right.
They base their actions on removing those things that may be contributing to unhappiness and figuring out how to add those things that make them happy.
Because of this, they think less about less, they talk less about less and they act less on less.
Yes, that’s right, they think, talk and act less than winners.
Why?
Because each of their thoughts, words and actions are more focused on creating happiness in their lives than on ‘merely’ pursuing goals and targets for the sake of succeeding at them.
What’s the point I’m making here?
Well, as the author of a goal achievement program and someone who’s often extolling you all into action with phrases like ‘you only get paid for done’ it may seem to many of you that I’m all about chase, chase, chasing goals, but I want to be clear that my targets and goals are not just about checking them off of a sheet.
They’re about more.
Much more!
They’re about enriching my life with experiences that are each personally meaningful to me in some way, shape or form.
I sometimes get caught up in being a loser (when I find myself complaining about some ‘unfair’ situation), mostly find myself in the position of being a winner with targets, goals and to-do lists galore but more and more I’m finding that the champion role, the one of being much more present in the here and now is the one that makes me and keeps me happiest for the longest.
I’m not a champion all the time for sure. In fact, sometimes the champion gets tied up and gagged by the winner as I get caught up in the pursuit of some big goal or another, but those times when the champion comes out are amazing and always lead to exponential growth in some way, shape or form.
So look, try to find a way to become the champion you were born to be. If you can’t find a way to be that just yet then spend more of your time being a winner by thinking, speaking and acting positively as much as you can but whatever you do, get away from the negative thinking, negative talking (including to yourself) and negative action (including not starting or not finishing those tasks that you know you should).
Success is much, much more than being a winner. It’s about being really happy with what you have, what you do and who you are being in life.
Champions are the epitome of happiness, winners are often happy but losers rarely (if ever) are.
Now, go back over those 3 definitions and identify who YOU are in life right now. Once you’ve done that, make a commitment to yourself to ‘upgrade your membership’ in life to the next level and you’ll soon see and feel an amazing difference.
Truth, joy and love
Dax Moy
